Tuesday, 6 December 2016

This isn't Over...



On Sunday morning, I was travelling, when someone called me up to share something very significant. It was very disappointing to hear the news as it was about a young school boy who committed suicide. The boy was scolded for riding a bike without license because he hit a cycle rickshaw. The boy was sent back home by the principal with a warning to not to repeat the mistake. Everything seemed OK but nobody comprehended what the boy was going through. As soon as the boy reached his place, he took out his father’s revolver and shot himself. Unfortunately, his parents were not present at that time or this tragedy would have been avoided.
The young boy, who would have several dreams about him, couldn’t fulfill them. What a life his parents would have imagined for him but alas this conversation seems futile now. But through my blog, I would like to give a message to all the young boys and girls to not to raise such a step as their lives shouldn’t be ended in this way. No matter how much annoyed they are, how depressed they are, no matter what a blunder, they’ve made but they shouldn’t take such an extreme decision.
Kids, your life belong to your parents as well. They live to see you growing up; they give their blood and flesh to raise you; they have innumerable dreams in terms of your life, career,well-being and prosperity. As soon as such weird ideas (of hurting yourself or committing suicide) knock your heads,you just think about your parents since it’s very hard for them to live without you. Their lives are hollow and aimless without your existence. 
Parents, Teachers and Teen Age Children
In the present scenario, when we all are trapped in the hustle and bustle of life, we, the grown-ups don't have time for our kids. On the other hand, due to massive hormonal changes, the children also are desperate for a new identity. During this strange phase of their lives, they are unfamiliar with what they really wish to have. Now a-days, due to immense responsibilities such as completion of course, taking care of a class of more than 40 students etc, their interaction with the students is not possible. The bond between a teacher and a taught is not the same as it used to be previously.

What should be done

  • The role of teachers and parents has become more significant in such a situation.
  • Now kids have access to a different world which is equipped with modern technologies. Hence, we can’t underestimate them all the time.
  • Parents must take out time to spend with their children.
  • There must be frequent counseling sessions in schools so that the teen age students can get opportunities to share their problems or confusion.
  • Outdoor games and yoga can help children to be physically and mentally strong.
  • The mutual understanding between the parents and the teachers can help children to enhance their skills for a successful personal and professional life.


Our children lay a strong foundation of a healthy society and a prosperous country hence, we need to give them such an upbringing so that they can have ability to differentiate between right and wrong. 

Best Wishes!
Mamta Sharma,
#MIRA (Mai.ra)
pics:google


Sunday, 4 December 2016

Plans for Our Old Age




Well folks, how are you all? Very often, I interact with the aging people and find out that they are filled with immense apprehension about their retirement age. Such as, what they would do after their retirement, how they would they spend their time, they are reluctant to go to their children’s places as they have their own lives. Apart from that they feel aloof in the new places and in new neighborhoods. There are several questions which cloud their minds and these multiply their tension.
Well, they are right, up to a certain extent. After spending several years of a routine life, they are scared of not having any disciplined life as they would have abundance of time after their retirement. Their children wish them to be busy so that they don’t feel alienated and bored but what should they do?
Let me share a real story with you all. Last week, I happened to visit my relative who lives in my city only. He is retired and has his wife, only son, his working daughter-in-law and two sweet granddaughters. Everybody in his family is busy so after retirement he had a sort of uneasiness to not have the same routine life. Though he loves to play with the little angels yet he had a burning desire to do something which keeps him occupied and let him have the same vigorous life.


So, when I visited his place, he invited me to see his small terrace garden. I went upstairs and was surprised to see his vitality with which he was showing me the plants and sapplings.
It seemed as if these plants were his children.  I was overjoyed to see his hard work and energetic spirit for gardening for which he had used each and every corner of his terrace (second and third floors).
Most interestingly, he used his innovation to decorate the place, as he had used the old and discarded things (such as old motors, wash basin, old shower to water the plants etc) of his house.



Hukka (which was really very old) and the old containers for planting the saplings  (picture below).



Each and every vacant corner was utilized intelligently that even the space under the retaining walls were also filled with soil to plant bogunvalia. 


Hence, through this blog of mine, I would like to focus on our attitude. Life flows along with the flying time so we have two options: one is to live the new day abruptly or to plan for new day beforehand to retain the vigor for the upcoming day.
If we are willing to live a disciplined and busy life, there’re several ways. So the aging people, waiting for their retirement (or the retired ones), do not need to be stressed out as they can lead to extraordinary lives if they change their attitude. We need to find out the things which we wish to do.

Change is the Law of Nature. So change your attitude and live a meaningful life.

Best Wishes!
Mamta Sharma,
#MIRA (Mai.ra)

Friday, 2 December 2016

Let’s Be Fear Proof and Healthy


Well folks, these days we all prefer the items which have strong protective layer on them such as waterproof watches, shoes etc. We like them because they are durable in their protective coating. Let’s ponder about the things which are required to make our lives longer and durable. This might sound strange to you yet there are certain protective layers which if we’ve on our minds, will help us in leading to extraordinary and healthy lives
Yes, I mean it. I am talking about fear proof lives. Let’s cast a glance over our daily routine and interestingly, we would come up with innumerable habits and things that make our lives not less than hell. There are certain fears which remain with us constantly and turn out to be hazardous due to their negative side effects.  
We have the following fears:
  • Fear of Death
  • Fear of diseases
  • Fear of Natural Disaster
  • Fear of Height
  • Fear of Losing our Jobs
  • Fear of Exposure
  • Fear of losing our family members, friends, or someone special
  • Fear of Public Speaking
  • Fear of not getting any job
  • Fear of right selection of schools for our children
  • Fear of People (what would people say)

The above list is very long as there are some funny reasons of fear as well. We even take feel feared to see the protagonists in our favorite serial is struggling because of the negative characters or sometimes we get scared to think if our maids or servants take an undeclared leave etc.
So, I would like to draw your attention towards such fears which have their profound negative side effects on our physical, psychological and emotional well-being. Many times we don’t even feel how much stressed out we are due to these petty affairs.
  • So, we have to figure out when are replaying such thoughts constantly. 
  • Let’s make ourselves fear proof because fear makes us more stressed out which ruins the happiness and ease of life. 
  • Let’s take out some time to meditate and exercise daily to get a strong mental and physical health. Let’s stop our negative self-talks which keep babbling about the worst things only. 
  • Let’s have faith in the Almighty as He’s there to stand by us. 
  • Let’s cut out the company of the flaky people as they add to our fear. 
  • Let’s consider this fact that death is the ultimate destination of our lives and no one can escape it. Let’s believe in the right ‘Karma’ as what goes around, comes around.
  • A fear proof life helps us to be healthy, happy and gratified. A happy person only can help our society to be happy and healthy.


Best Wishes!
Mamta Sharma
#MIRA (Mai.ra)


  

Thursday, 1 December 2016

Accessories Add Charm to Our Personality



According to Google dictionary, an accessory is a thing which can be added to something else in order to make it more useful, versatile, or attractive.
Indeed, they do. A person with simple looks and ordinary clothes gets an extraordinary looks if he or she knows how to select the right kind of accessories.
People love to have a collection of sunglasses, watches, scarves, earrings, bindis (a patch made of plastic, available in different shapes and colours), valets, shoes etc. Accessories have become the inseparable part of our day to day life. Going out with them seems an impossible task and we feel very confident while wearing them.


But in this blog, I’m not talking about the accessories which we use in our day to day life. I wish to focus on something else. I’m talking about the real accessories which we already have and don’t have to purchase them from anywhere else. These accessories are fantastic and add some extra charm to our personality. We need to explore them within us.

Smile

Smile is the best accessory which transforms our personalities if we use it while meeting or interacting with others. I have noticed that people use their smile very economically as they feel that smile will present them as weak people. But let me share that this beautiful accessory if used nicely will create wonder in our lives.


Eye Contact

Maintaining eye contact is the accessory which is a must while communicating with others. Several people don’t pay much heed to this accessory as they feel it’s not that significant. But we don’t know how offensive our children feel when they find us talking to them with our eyes glued to the screen of T.V. or computer system. Just think when our little ones comprehend its vitality, why don’t we include this accessory in our lives.

Posture

Posture refers to a particular position of the body. How many of us value this accessory in our personality. Posture exhibits our attitude. A faulty posture ruins our impression on others. Poor posture such drooping shoulders, the way we sit, stand or walk etc need extra efforts to be corrected.



I know each of us know how vital these accessories are for our successful personal and professional lives but we hardly wish to make changes in our personality as it requires lots of efforts, time and attention.Though there are several other accessories which give an extra value to our personality but today my focus was on the accessories mentioned above. So let’s include them in our day to day life and showcase us in a more presentable and confident way while communicating with others.



Best wishes!
Mamta Sharma
#MIRA (Mai.ra)
pics: google



Wednesday, 30 November 2016

Selfie Smile Vs Real Smile

Well folks, these days, selfie is in rage and so is the selfie smile. I love to see how people make their best efforts to get a perfect selfie. We make faces, have pouts, smile (sometimes weirdly) or pose differently to get the best shot. We are ready to do anything to add to the best effects to our selfie. Sometimes our efforts pay and sometimes they don't.


Now comes the next step and this is to upload our selfie on some social networking sites. This is followed by an elongated wait for our friends' complements and likes. Our endeavors seem to succeed if our posts receive expected (or unexpected) number of likes. If our posts don't grab the attention of the viewers, our endeavors fail due to which we feel apprehensive sometimes.

Have we ever thought how many extra endeavors, we make just to attract peoples' attention? How much time we spend in getting clicked?
But let me ask you what extra endeavors we make to get our minds and bodies relaxed or cheerful.

We all are familiar with the importance of a selfie. Very often, we end up investing a good amount of time trying to get the perfect click. A good effect can make our selfie stand out of the crowd but what should we do to get a good effect of our lives.
Let's smile at regular intervals and sometimes for no reason. Does it make any sense to you?



Let's smile at every small or big achievement. Let’s smile in the morning to express our gratitude towards the Almighty for giving us a new day. Let's smile when we all reach our offices safely.
We shouldn't forget to smile when our entire day passes smoothly without any conflict or clashes. I think many of us would have got tired to get these many reasons to smile but let's find out more reasons to smile. We have to smile when we get back home and find our family members and children waiting for us eagerly for us. Let's smile to pets wagging their tails to see us.

So, let me pen down by reminding you that selfie smile is significant because all of us wish to be at the center of attraction but this smile is fake and it disappears as soon as our pose is clicked.
To smile at each and every act which the Divine gets done brings the real smile on our faces. So let’s smile and spread its infection all over the world.



 Best Wishes!
Mamta Sharma
#MIRA (Mai.ra)
pics: #MIRA (Mai.ra)

Monday, 28 November 2016

Brighten Your Spirits and Succeed


If someone asks you what does brighten up your spirit, just think, what your answer would be. Which thing or person instills your lives with enthusiasm and happiness? What does uplift your spirit to do something which gets you to the next level? Is it your family, your passion, your work, your ‘me-time’, the smile of your little baby or the social service you do?
Just think and let your ‘self’ know about it and note it down in a journal.

No matter how old you are or where you are living or what kind of life you are leading to, what matters the most is how much willingness you have to raise the level of yourself, your life, and your happiness.
 

I urge you all to take out time to let yourself know about such fantastic things and feel the drastic transformation in your lives.  Many times when we feel low or uninteresting, we can surround us with such people or things which make us feel better.

If we really wish to move ahead in our lives, it's significant to gather positive things and people around us then only we'll be able to explore best in us. 

So criticizing the people, condemning the policies or things never ever make us to be at ease and to initiate something new in our lives. So it’s so vitally important for us to focus on the things which brighten our spirit and to work to transform our lives.
The New Year is about to knock at our doors and we must think about how we can be in a better situation with each passing day and for this we require to get rid of our habits of blaming others for something wrong in our lives. Let’s make this resolution to fill our hearts and lives with those who enhance the level of skills, attributes, happiness and lives.



Best Wishes!
Mamta Sharma
#MIRA (Mai.ra)
Pics:google

Sunday, 27 November 2016

LOVE YOUSELF MORE THAN ANYBODY ELSE


Give Priority to Yourself to Live Successfully

Well folks, how are you all? Last month while having a discussion with one of my family members, I had to face his annoyance. He got angry with my statement which was ‘WE SHOULD LOVE OURSELVES MORE THAN ANYBODY ELSE.’ He said this thought showed my petty perception and self-contentedness. You won’t believe that the accusation made me dejected and disappointed and I left the room at once. Later, I kept thinking where I was wrong and why I was misinterpreted. After a contemplation of 2 hours, I found no change in my viewpoint. That small tiff steered me to write my today’s blog that ‘WE SHOULD LOVE OURSELVES MORE THAN ANYBODY ELSE.’
Now let me share the reasons why I have such an opinion. We’ve several concerns and responsibilities in our lives. We’re so trapped in them that sometimes, it becomes utterly tough for us to prioritize them. But on the basis of my experience, I can say that nothing matters as much as our own ‘selves’.

Health

We can take care of our family, society, nation and the world if we’re physically, psychologically and emotionally healthy. But we take our health granted. We don’t hesitate to medicate ourselves as we wish to have instant relief. We swallow down the medicines for head ache, fever, depression, body ache etc without consulting any doctor. Most interestingly, sometimes we put our health issues on the back burner for very unimportant reasons.
Time
We are unable to take out time for our hobbies or the things we wish to do for very long. I know a number of people who are minting money but they don’t have any vacation plans. Even they don’t prefer to take any offs for a family trip or outing. They give a lame excuse that they are earning and saving for their family but what about their own lives which is ticking away like time.
Age is Just an Increasing Number
We can find grownups babbling about how they want their children to fulfill their dreams as they have lived their life. Should we invest in our hobbies or dreams till we are young? Why can’t grownups have the same burning desire for their goals, dreams and visions? Age is just increasing number as it doesn’t have anything to do with our feelings and emotions.
We’re not Kids Anymore
We can hear people around us uttering this dialogue at regular intervals. To have an impulse or motive in our lives gives us a right direction to our lives. So do whatever we wish to do, visiting the places where we yearn to go, purchasing outfits which we love to wear doesn’t need us to be kids. Yes we’re not kids anymore still we have all rights to satisfy the kids which remains within us till our last breath.
So, let's love ourselves more than any one else so that we can scatter happiness everywhere.

Best Wishes!
Mamta Sharma
#MIRA (Mai.ra)
pics:google


Saturday, 26 November 2016

Change Your Thoughts to Win!!!

Well Folks, have you ever thought, what do you do when don’t do anything? A bit confusing question! But still you need to find out the answer. So let me respond that we keep talking to our ‘selves’ when we are sitting idle.
The persistent chattering in our minds makes us uneasy and unhappy. We feel stressed out, irritated and depressed without knowing that such negative self-conversations ruin our mental peace.  We seem relaxed and quiet outwardly but we’re trapped in a whirlpool of thoughts. This seems unbelievable yet it’s significant for us to get familiar with the role of such interactions in our lives.
Let’s focus on what this self-talk is all about. When we notice, we will figure out that generally these self-talks are pessimistic and negative. negative self-talks on our well-being.
We keep blaming ourselves for the previous mistakes and failures etc. We keep uttering the negative declarations such as why my life is not as good as others’? I’m not lucky.  I don’t get the return of my hard work. Why are people so bad to me? Others are enjoying their lives but not I. So on and so forth. Let’s see the impact of such
·         Such negative self-talks make our attitude entirely negative.

       On account of negative self-talks, we form a poor self-image.
      They decrease our impulse to initiate something new in our life.
·         We affect our physical, mental, and psychological health drastically.
·         We develop the habits such as headache, depression, irritation, annoyance etc.
·         We lose our confidence and get scared of making decision.

·         We’re stressed out which keeps us at bay in our personal and professional life.             
·         A constant comparison of us with others increases the problems manifold.
·         We are addicted to the faulty habits which hinder us to succeed.
       We try to be gentle to others but never make our 'self'happy.
·         Unknowingly, we train our minds to not to think about positive things

But we never notice how drastically these negative self-talks affect us. Let me mention that we must cut out our negative self-talks for a successful personal and professional life.
·         We’ll have to replace our negative self-talks with the positive ones.

·         We must note down the positive self-declaration in journal every day.
·         This will lead to a positive change in our life.
·         We’ll have to pay heed to an inside out transformation for which we can practice meditation.
·    We should refrain from the company of negative or pessimistic people as they add to our problems.

·         We can have gratitude for what we have with us as this feeling makes us full of positivity.
·    First we’ll have to figure out our realistic goals and then we can work to acquire them strategically.

     We’re very concerned for each gadget which we’ve purchased. We learn how to use them and try our level best to handle them with care as according to us these gadgets are expensive and delicate. But what about our 'body'. Why are we least attentive towards our 'body' which is the most wonderful human mechanism. This neglect results in several physical, psychological and emotional problems within us and we, ignorantly, keep blaming the outside factors. Moreover, unintentionally, we train our minds negatively which makes our life a mess. According to the  Law of attraction, we attract the same negative happenings which we've been repeating constantly.So let’s learn to fill our minds with positive declarations

    Best Wishes
   Mamta Sharma,
#MIRA (Mai.ra)