Thursday, 9 February 2017

10 Reasons Why We Should Spend Time with the Elderly People

I still remember how during my childhood days, I used to spend some time with the elderly people of my building. I can’t forget the immense love and affection; they used to scatter over me for a little amount of my time. I used to do their petty works such as cutting their nails, or helping them to bathe or to read out news papers to them.

They had interesting life experiences to share and the more time I would spend with them, the more attached I would feel with them. Though none of them is alive now but they exist in my life in the form of their blessings. I read somewhere that loneliness is a kind of epidemic. In a country like India, this problem has emerged since people started preferring nuclear families. Since people are so occupied in their lives that they don’t have time to spend with their aging parents. The old age home is the consequence of spreading indifference towards our parents.
So, let’s talk about the 10 reasons why we should spend time with the aging people:

 Our time with the aging people helps them to live for a longer span of time.

eThey can help the working fellows to raise their children in a better way.

 Our company removes monotony of their old age lives and makes them positive and optimistic.

Their experience helps us to live our lives more efficiently.

The aging people whether or not they are highly educated, their advice is unique and useful. Hence, we can make our life better with their assistance.

The fact that we all have to grow old along with the time will help us to be empathizing with them. Then only we can undergo that at this point of time, they need proper care and attention of their children.
How can we forget their dedication and investment of their precious amount of time while raising us? Remember the nights when they kept awake so that we could sleep or how hard they tried to make us what we are today. So, let’s gear up as this is our turn now.

Sometimes we don’t like them because of their rigid viewpoints and attitude. But don’t we remember how stubborn we used to be during our childhood! So, it’s our turn to understand our parents’ perceptions.
Our little attention makes them in high spirits and contented and this will surely fill us with immense happiness.
   Our time with them will keep them in the pink of their health.

So, let’s take out some time out of our busy schedule and go for an outing with our parents, or give them some gifts on their birthdays. Let me mention that life is nothing without our family and our aging parents are the integral part of it. So, it is essential to care them as this will instill the same values in our children. Lucky they are who have their parents with them!
Best Wishes! 
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Monday, 23 January 2017

Self-Development: a Persistent Process of Learning

I grew up in an orthodox Brahmin family during the mid 80s and early 90s. The bitter experiences and turbulent accidents affected my personality and mindset so profoundly and negatively that I lost my confidence entirely. Those childhood and teen age experiences made me timid and a person with no confidence. Due to which, I had to work very hard to be the person that I am today.

Some years ago, when I realized that I was left with no option rather than working on my mindset and personality, I started looking for the ways which could be helpful. The very first aspect which I wanted to change about myself was to have a self-value which I hardly had. Nobody paid any attention to me or my viewpoints. No matter how hard I would try, no one gave any heed to me. We all are familiar with the fact that the feeling of being ‘No One’ hurts us a lot. Let me tell you that we all are living in the best era as there’s an easy access to the internet. I started watching the motivational videos which were available on YouTube. The speakers such Opera Winfrey,  Les Brown, Zig Ziegler, Jim Rohn provided me with a real insight of having a confident personality. I came across that life is not easy for the most of us and we all have to grapple with the odds in our lives. But real winners are those who learn how to overcome the vicious incidences that take place in our lives.
So, first of all, I considered myself significant as if we wish others to respect us, we’ll have value us.  This change of thought created a magical impact on my behavior. I fell in love with myself and stopped behaving with me in a cruel and rude manner. (Earlier, I had a habit of rebuking myself for failures, problems and all the negative happenings which took place in my life.) I initiated congratulating me for small gains.

Then my next step was to change timid and scared ‘self’ to a confident one. I started working on my inner self. Positive declarations such ‘I can do it’, ‘I am confident’ and ‘I am a winner’ resonated my inner self with positive vibration. It took me three months and I could see a wonderful transformation in me which helped me to be happy, gratified and empowered. Now, others’ viewpoints about me stopped hurting me.
My new and changed attitude attracted success and now nobody can even guess how frightened, diffident, shy and pessimistic girl, I used to be few years ago.
The process of self-development which I commenced years ago still continues as this a persistent and rigorous process. There are several new goals to achieve and I’m determined to grab them.
Are you also a pessimistic and fearful fellow? Kindly leave your comments and share your problems if you too wish to change your attitude and life. Let me tell you that happiness is our right and we should not live lives deprive of this wonderful attribute which is a key to success.
Best Wishes!

Thursday, 19 January 2017

We Vs Others

Hello Folks, how are you all? My today's blog is about if we are truly committed to ourselves. It's very significant to ponder about this thought. After all, this is our life and we, only we...are responsible for it. We must take the responsibility for our lives and actions. Why do we keep looking at others for making certain changes in our lives? Why do we keep blaming others for our failures or problems? Why do we keep thinking about others' ways or techniques to change our lives positively or the other way round? OMG!! Our attitude has made our lives more miserable.

During my training sessions, people's questions bewilder me as they seem to have bothered about others more than their own lives. People ask the questions such as how to deal with the people (others) who irritate them or how to cope with problematic situations which are created by their colleagues (again others) deliberately so on and so forth. Most interestingly, they are damn sure that all the problems in their personal and professional lives exist on account of others since they (others) don't wish them to live peacefully and happily.

So, let's forget about others and their ill intended plans for a while and sit idly. Let's ponder about ourselves only as this is our life and we can't hold others responsible for chaos in our own lives. Since, we are the victims and our beautiful life which has become a total mess belongs to us not to others.

The foremost thing is We Are Responsible for our Own Life!
So, we have to mend our ways.
It's better to work on our ways instead of pointing towards others' drawbacks.
Let's find out some fantastic ways to be happy and cheerful.
Let's rip negativity out of our life.
We are fortunate enough to have receive this gift of human life, let's don't waste it because we don't like others' ways.
Let's live a life which includes health, wealth, pleasures, and happiness. Our mind keeps talking about unpleasant happenings only so it's essential to cut it out completely.

Best Wishes!

Tuesday, 6 December 2016

This isn't Over...

On Sunday morning, I was travelling, when someone called me up to share something very significant. It was very disappointing to hear the news as it was about a young school boy who committed suicide. The boy was scolded for riding a bike without license because he hit a cycle rickshaw. The boy was sent back home by the principal with a warning to not to repeat the mistake. Everything seemed OK but nobody comprehended what the boy was going through. As soon as the boy reached his place, he took out his father’s revolver and shot himself. Unfortunately, his parents were not present at that time or this tragedy would have been avoided.
The young boy, who would have several dreams about him, couldn’t fulfill them. What a life his parents would have imagined for him but alas this conversation seems futile now. But through my blog, I would like to give a message to all the young boys and girls to not to raise such a step as their lives shouldn’t be ended in this way. No matter how much annoyed they are, how depressed they are, no matter what a blunder, they’ve made but they shouldn’t take such an extreme decision.
Kids, your life belong to your parents as well. They live to see you growing up; they give their blood and flesh to raise you; they have innumerable dreams in terms of your life, career,well-being and prosperity. As soon as such weird ideas (of hurting yourself or committing suicide) knock your heads,you just think about your parents since it’s very hard for them to live without you. Their lives are hollow and aimless without your existence. 
Parents, Teachers and Teen Age Children
In the present scenario, when we all are trapped in the hustle and bustle of life, we, the grown-ups don't have time for our kids. On the other hand, due to massive hormonal changes, the children also are desperate for a new identity. During this strange phase of their lives, they are unfamiliar with what they really wish to have. Now a-days, due to immense responsibilities such as completion of course, taking care of a class of more than 40 students etc, their interaction with the students is not possible. The bond between a teacher and a taught is not the same as it used to be previously.

What should be done

  • The role of teachers and parents has become more significant in such a situation.
  • Now kids have access to a different world which is equipped with modern technologies. Hence, we can’t underestimate them all the time.
  • Parents must take out time to spend with their children.
  • There must be frequent counseling sessions in schools so that the teen age students can get opportunities to share their problems or confusion.
  • Outdoor games and yoga can help children to be physically and mentally strong.
  • The mutual understanding between the parents and the teachers can help children to enhance their skills for a successful personal and professional life.

Our children lay a strong foundation of a healthy society and a prosperous country hence, we need to give them such an upbringing so that they can have ability to differentiate between right and wrong. 

Best Wishes!
Mamta Sharma,
#MIRA (Mai.ra)

Sunday, 4 December 2016

Plans for Our Old Age

Well folks, how are you all? Very often, I interact with the aging people and find out that they are filled with immense apprehension about their retirement age. Such as, what they would do after their retirement, how they would they spend their time, they are reluctant to go to their children’s places as they have their own lives. Apart from that they feel aloof in the new places and in new neighborhoods. There are several questions which cloud their minds and these multiply their tension.
Well, they are right, up to a certain extent. After spending several years of a routine life, they are scared of not having any disciplined life as they would have abundance of time after their retirement. Their children wish them to be busy so that they don’t feel alienated and bored but what should they do?
Let me share a real story with you all. Last week, I happened to visit my relative who lives in my city only. He is retired and has his wife, only son, his working daughter-in-law and two sweet granddaughters. Everybody in his family is busy so after retirement he had a sort of uneasiness to not have the same routine life. Though he loves to play with the little angels yet he had a burning desire to do something which keeps him occupied and let him have the same vigorous life.

So, when I visited his place, he invited me to see his small terrace garden. I went upstairs and was surprised to see his vitality with which he was showing me the plants and sapplings.
It seemed as if these plants were his children.  I was overjoyed to see his hard work and energetic spirit for gardening for which he had used each and every corner of his terrace (second and third floors).
Most interestingly, he used his innovation to decorate the place, as he had used the old and discarded things (such as old motors, wash basin, old shower to water the plants etc) of his house.

Hukka (which was really very old) and the old containers for planting the saplings  (picture below).

Each and every vacant corner was utilized intelligently that even the space under the retaining walls were also filled with soil to plant bogunvalia. 

Hence, through this blog of mine, I would like to focus on our attitude. Life flows along with the flying time so we have two options: one is to live the new day abruptly or to plan for new day beforehand to retain the vigor for the upcoming day.
If we are willing to live a disciplined and busy life, there’re several ways. So the aging people, waiting for their retirement (or the retired ones), do not need to be stressed out as they can lead to extraordinary lives if they change their attitude. We need to find out the things which we wish to do.

Change is the Law of Nature. So change your attitude and live a meaningful life.

Best Wishes!
Mamta Sharma,
#MIRA (Mai.ra)

Friday, 2 December 2016

Let’s Be Fear Proof and Healthy

Well folks, these days we all prefer the items which have strong protective layer on them such as waterproof watches, shoes etc. We like them because they are durable in their protective coating. Let’s ponder about the things which are required to make our lives longer and durable. This might sound strange to you yet there are certain protective layers which if we’ve on our minds, will help us in leading to extraordinary and healthy lives
Yes, I mean it. I am talking about fear proof lives. Let’s cast a glance over our daily routine and interestingly, we would come up with innumerable habits and things that make our lives not less than hell. There are certain fears which remain with us constantly and turn out to be hazardous due to their negative side effects.  
We have the following fears:
  • Fear of Death
  • Fear of diseases
  • Fear of Natural Disaster
  • Fear of Height
  • Fear of Losing our Jobs
  • Fear of Exposure
  • Fear of losing our family members, friends, or someone special
  • Fear of Public Speaking
  • Fear of not getting any job
  • Fear of right selection of schools for our children
  • Fear of People (what would people say)

The above list is very long as there are some funny reasons of fear as well. We even take feel feared to see the protagonists in our favorite serial is struggling because of the negative characters or sometimes we get scared to think if our maids or servants take an undeclared leave etc.
So, I would like to draw your attention towards such fears which have their profound negative side effects on our physical, psychological and emotional well-being. Many times we don’t even feel how much stressed out we are due to these petty affairs.
  • So, we have to figure out when are replaying such thoughts constantly. 
  • Let’s make ourselves fear proof because fear makes us more stressed out which ruins the happiness and ease of life. 
  • Let’s take out some time to meditate and exercise daily to get a strong mental and physical health. Let’s stop our negative self-talks which keep babbling about the worst things only. 
  • Let’s have faith in the Almighty as He’s there to stand by us. 
  • Let’s cut out the company of the flaky people as they add to our fear. 
  • Let’s consider this fact that death is the ultimate destination of our lives and no one can escape it. Let’s believe in the right ‘Karma’ as what goes around, comes around.
  • A fear proof life helps us to be healthy, happy and gratified. A happy person only can help our society to be happy and healthy.

Best Wishes!
Mamta Sharma
#MIRA (Mai.ra)


Thursday, 1 December 2016

Accessories Add Charm to Our Personality

According to Google dictionary, an accessory is a thing which can be added to something else in order to make it more useful, versatile, or attractive.
Indeed, they do. A person with simple looks and ordinary clothes gets an extraordinary looks if he or she knows how to select the right kind of accessories.
People love to have a collection of sunglasses, watches, scarves, earrings, bindis (a patch made of plastic, available in different shapes and colours), valets, shoes etc. Accessories have become the inseparable part of our day to day life. Going out with them seems an impossible task and we feel very confident while wearing them.

But in this blog, I’m not talking about the accessories which we use in our day to day life. I wish to focus on something else. I’m talking about the real accessories which we already have and don’t have to purchase them from anywhere else. These accessories are fantastic and add some extra charm to our personality. We need to explore them within us.


Smile is the best accessory which transforms our personalities if we use it while meeting or interacting with others. I have noticed that people use their smile very economically as they feel that smile will present them as weak people. But let me share that this beautiful accessory if used nicely will create wonder in our lives.

Eye Contact

Maintaining eye contact is the accessory which is a must while communicating with others. Several people don’t pay much heed to this accessory as they feel it’s not that significant. But we don’t know how offensive our children feel when they find us talking to them with our eyes glued to the screen of T.V. or computer system. Just think when our little ones comprehend its vitality, why don’t we include this accessory in our lives.


Posture refers to a particular position of the body. How many of us value this accessory in our personality. Posture exhibits our attitude. A faulty posture ruins our impression on others. Poor posture such drooping shoulders, the way we sit, stand or walk etc need extra efforts to be corrected.

I know each of us know how vital these accessories are for our successful personal and professional lives but we hardly wish to make changes in our personality as it requires lots of efforts, time and attention.Though there are several other accessories which give an extra value to our personality but today my focus was on the accessories mentioned above. So let’s include them in our day to day life and showcase us in a more presentable and confident way while communicating with others.

Best wishes!
Mamta Sharma
#MIRA (Mai.ra)
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